Tuesday, November 16, 2010

The pups are waiting for me to come home


My blog , home and art life has been collecting dust  again but this time for a good cause !! I have been doing another family project !! It is for  my Mom  as she has taken a major step  in seeking help with her  self destructive patterns . 2  1/2 weeks ago she entered  a 4 week retreat program to  seek  help in becoming a more whole and healthy person !!! I could  not be prouder. In exchange for her willingness to do this work on her self  I  am willing and agreed  to be there for  her  and give her the support she needs through the process, which so far has been  being  with her  for 1 week before she went into the program , moving  her into a smaller home and  getting rid of the millions of  hoarded  boxes of   clutter at her old home. I did and am  doing this  while she  is  in the program . This week ( week 3 ) of her program  I am  also doing a  4 day   family week with her to help us both  learn  to communicate better , It has been good, but hard .  I then go back  friday to her home and  finish up more move details  like the estate sale details at her old house  . Hopefully I will have time to  pop home for a visit next week  and then back again  to bring her home and   spend   the first  2 weeks  with her at her  new home in  order to help her  make the adjustment to her new patterns of living and life style . I am sure it will take another life time of work but 2 weeks should help a  bit and many more visit in the future  IF she stays  healthy, but IF not then back to tough love. What more could a daughter  ask of her 73 year old mother but to have the courage to change  and make these  changes at 73 !!! Yippee!!!!! What a great gift she is giving her self and her loved ones !!!  I am so hopeful and happy for her and the family as my Mom has been in crisis  mode for some time and  many family members have been heavy hearted . Please all rejoice with me and remember -As long as there is life their is hope !!Now  the other side of this is my artwork  business and home life have  had to take a major back seat . So  please say a prayer that all will be ok with those things  when I get back to my life again  . And  I want to say  a" Big Thanks "to Cal for being so supportive and helping my Mom with the move too!! Love you Sweetie!!!You have come a long way too!! And I know Peanut and Scooter miss me too and wait patiently for me to arrive back home with them where I belong.


24 comments:

Rena said...

Praying for your mother's healing, and bless you so much for being there for you mom, she is lucky to have you to help and support her.
Remember to be good to yourself too Julie...

xx Rena

Nelly said...

sending good vibes to you and your mother. it is never to late to change. she has a wonderful support from her daughter and that will help her through.

Renee Troy said...

Hang in there my friend...God rewards those with loving patience and a willingness to give unconditionally as you seem to be doing.
There is something to be learned from this for you and mom. I will keep positive healing thoughts for all of you and hold you constant in my prayers.

Love Pups waiting...precious!

Terri Brush said...

Julie, LOVE your post and news on mom.. your such a wonderful daughter to help your mother with her new baby steps!.. Big HUG! Love you and Miss you LOTS!. Hope to see you in Phoenix in January..

John said...

That is wonderful news regarding your Mom and her supportive daughter. I am putting you both on my blog healing list.

Terri Kahrs said...

Julie, your Mom is very blessed to have you stand by her side. What a good daughter you are! Will send healing prayers and angels of courage to surround you both AND your family. Many blessings. Terri xoxo

Jingle said...

Julie, this is so wonderful! You are a beautiful person for doing what you are doing to help her and it is so exciting that she is willing to work toward the changes she needs!

Elizabeth said...

What an incredibly tough journeyt aht your Mom has taken what a huge [positive step!! i am cheering for her wildly from the East Coast!!! How incredible for you to put things on hold to get her through this but also in giving yourself the gift of helping her. In helping her you will help yourself. The rest will fall into place only BETTER than before! I am also sure that the rest of the family will start to step up more as they see you throwing your all into this project!! your Mom is one strong lady and as a woman I am so impressed by the strength that she is showing and the example that she is showing to all of US!!! Huge hugs to both of You and Bravo to Cal for being there for you both!!!!

artistamyjo said...

Good for you,what a lovely and generous daughter you are.
Good luck and many hugs...

Nancy said...

Wow, had no idea you have had all this on your plate. So exciting that your mom is trying to make this big change with your help. I will keep you in my prayers and don't worry about your "art life" as everyone will be thrilled when you get the chance to get your hands in the clay again!!! Hang in there! There's tons of love and support out here coming your way!
XOXO Nancy

Auntie Joy said...

Hey Julie,
Wow, that is a lot for everyone! I will be thinking of you, and praying that all goes as smoothly as possible.
Sounds like you have a lot to be thankful for this Thanksgiving.
xoxo
JOY!

Diane Duda said...

Sounds very hard, but very worth it. My best to you and your mom.
xo
Di

Julie Whitmore Pottery said...

wonderful daughter, you.
xx

The Backporch Artessa said...

Oh Julie I'm so happy for you and will pray it all sticks! On the plus side, maybe you'll find some cool stuff that will be inspiration for your art as you go thru all the stuff at your moms house! Good for her to be willing to embrace change!

And maybe this break from art will be just what you need to refresh your muse!

ginnyballou said...

Wow, Julie - this is huge - I suppose, by age, I identify with your Mom - but in life's measure I know what this means to you and your sister. My warmest thoughts and positive energy come your way as you make yet another attempt to help someone you love and someone you so want to love you. You can have no way of knowing how much I identify with you - your art is so whimsical, charming, colorful (as is mine- although not in your league) but given the darkness I sense has enveloped us both in the past - our art seems at odds with our early/inner life. I salute you. Ginny Ballou

Lorie said...

Julie--my thoughts and prayers are with you! xox Lorie

Such a Wondrous Place this Faery Space said...

I want you to know friend that you are giving her the gift of your love and hope. You, too, are brave. Brave to love her, brave to embrace. I send you thanks for being a light to us all and always bringing a smile with your art. Blessings to you dear one.

whymsicalmusings said...

I am saying prayers for you my dear friend. I hope all is working well and you and your Mother can find the peace and joy you seek. What a wonderful thing to be able to help her. Sending a Hug your way!
XXX
Becky

Whimsey Creations said...

So glad to hear everything is going well with your mom - I was worried about you. Hugs!

karlascottage.typepad.com said...

You are never too old to make progress in becoming a better person, good for her! (and it will be wonderful for you, I'm sure!)

Cathy ~ Tadpoles and Teacups said...

Sending a prayer on behalf of your mom (and you, too.)

Terri said...

How wonderful that your mum is doing such a healthy thing for herself, and you are able to participate. That is amazing! Best wishes for all of you on this family journey.
Sending you healing hugs,
Terri

Charlene said...

OH JULIE!!!! You are such an amzing person/daughter to do all of that for your Mom. I will indeed say lots of prayers for both of you! YIKES when I think of going through all my stuff... My son doesn't think much of my "collections" I can just imagine he would toss it to the curb. HUGS!
Your Mermaid Sister, Charlene

paperbird said...

collecting dust- a great description!
You are a great daughter- it's almost been a year since my Mom passed- I miss her.
Enjoy these sweet times with your dear Mother.