Saturday, December 26, 2009


When my  husband  Mark was dying , Hospice had to be called in. The two of us  did not want to face what  that  meant.  I told the  Hospice workers that having them on board took  our hope away. The social worker told me ."  No, you just have to learn  to hope for something different" . I learned so much from Mark's  death, that being one of them. I learned to look to the unkown in Mark's case . Maybe his dying was not the end for him and I had to "hope" that some thing was still ahead for him, something I could not see or be a part of  but still something good for him . As I deal now with my " friends"  loss I have to face that maybe for  her I must hope for something different too. Maybe  instead of life with this man  there will be another life for her without him.  I thank you for your prayers as I think they are reminding me of that lesson about life. There is always  hope you just  need  to adjust  your focus. 


susanc said...

What a powerful post Julie. I guess sometimes we have to look at things differently, as life doesn't always turn out the way we plan for, but we have to adjust our way of thinking and looking at things. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Diane said...

I agree with Susan, Julie. Thank you for sharing this post with us.

Julie Fillo said...

Very thought provoking post. I am facing some hard things myself, changes that I don't like and will have to get used to. I am trying to remember that there will be happy times again, even if it does not seem so now. I really like your new figure too.


jone hallmark said...

You have more strength than you know.
Each day will bring something to cherish and the sun will continue to shine.
I hope that you can come "home" someday soon.
This is a very "healing" place. I know that it holds so many memories for you......but it is a safe place to heal.
I miss you and love you...
xo Jone

lotsofglue said...

You are an incredible and understanding friend whom she can look to and realize that there is never an "end".

Hugs and Blessings to you both.

Dot said...

What a inspiring post Julie. You are not only talented but very brave and inspirational too.
Hugs from Australia
Dot xx

Lisa Holtzman said...

Oh Julie, I didn't know you had lost your husband. It takes enormous courage and faith to find another way of looking at painful situations in life. I'm so glad you have been able to do that. Thank you for sharing yourself so openly.

Lisa Holtzman said...

p.s. This piece is so beautiful. I feel your heart in it.

Judy said...

I had never thought of that..."hope for something different". I will carry that with me always, thank you Julie.

Anonymous said...

Hi Julie,
What beautiful, communicative, and inspiring art. Isn't it amazing how art transcends all languages and directly and humanly this case from the heart. I have been a counselor for over 30 years now and I have come to see that in terms of your friend and her husband none of us 'fall out of love'...we stop loving. Love is an action that as we grow...we are tested to deepen over and over. Her husband is, for whatever reason, stopping his growth rather than embracing the pain and refining fire of it. Love is a fire that refines us...would we have it any other way?
Your friend is in the refiners fire and at the end of all this will, truly, though unbelievable more deeply happy and loving.
Much love to you and your friend, Patti

Tami Roth said...

I am so sorry to hear of your loss(es), Julie, and appreciate your blog posts and your sharing during this difficult time. I am going to remember how the quote you shared with us-how we have to hope for something different as time passes :) Your friend is in my thoughts and prayers, as you are!!
Hugs and love,

Sandra Lee said...

So beautifully said Julie...with prayers and constant faith, hope and the love of friends I know your friend will be blessed in so many ways. It just takes time for the clouds to go away and the sun to shine again.

Nancy said...

I know this post came from deep within your heart. I am holding you up in prayer. May the New Year be one of new hope, new strength, new inspiration and renewed faith.
Much love,

Anneke (An) Wijers said...

Hi Julie,

I didn't know this because I'm a follower for only one week. I've read your story with tears in my eyes.
Hopefully the new year will bring you happiness again!

I wanted to thank you for your nice mail on my blog.
I' am a scrapper since febr. 2003.
I discovered Mixed Media only for a short time ago.
And i like it very much.
I have seen your blog and its awesome; wonderful.
I love it all what you make.
You are a great artist!

The very best wishes for 2010

Greetings, Anne